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Dear Agony Aunt,

1 I’m in a total mess here – hope you can help me out!

2 I’m 17, and a member of our school basketball team. I’m crazy about basketball, and pretty good at it too, which is probably why I was so mad when we lost our last match. We played well, but I felt the team were let down by one member, our point guard. The point guard is a key player, but it was like he wasn’t even on the court! Disappointed by his behaviour, I said all this to my best friend. I was just letting off steam really, because I was so angry, but then my friend went and told everyone else what I’d said.

3 This is so totally awkward. I’m really angry with my friend – what should I say to him? And should I say anything at all to my teammate?

4 Embarrassed and ashamed, I can’t concentrate on anything. Please help!

Ben

Dear Ben,

1 There is an old American saying, “Loose lips sink ships.” This means that if you speak too much about something, especially to people who you don’t know so well, it’ll cause all kinds of trouble.

2 The situation here is so much worse because the “loose lips” were your best friend’s. Betrayed by him, you’re bound to feel hurt – we should always be able to trust those closest to us, and it hurts even more when we find we can’t.

3 But I have to say that you’re partly to blame, aren’t you? You admit that you were “letting off steam”. It is understandable in that situation, but we should always think before we speak.

4 Here’s what you need to do. First, apologise to your teammate. If you ever want to win any more basketball games (and I’m sure you do!), you need unity, and that means a785bmunicating with each other clearly and resolving conflict. So have a chat with your teammate. Tell him directly and honestly that you were talking without thinking.

5 Then, talk to your friend. Friendship should be one of the greatest thing in the world, but sometimes it can be a785bplicated. Again, constant, clear a785bmunication is the thing. You’re your friend you’re upset with him for repeating what you said and making the situation worse, but that you want to move on. Approached in this way, your friendship will soon be restored.

6 Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, think about your own behaviour. Don’t talk too much when you’re angry! Filled with anger, you tend to say whatever a785bes to your mind. Take a deep breath, calm down, and always remember: think first, speak later. If you feel one of your teammates isn’t pulling their weight, then raise your concerns in a professional way you’re your team coach.

7 If you think about other people’s feelings as well as your own, you’ll soon find everything works out.

8 Good luck!

Agony Aunt

 

 

 

Problems	Solutions ↓按救急程度解决问题的办法	Reasons
I a785bplained we lost the game because of my teammate.	First, apologise to yourteammate. (Tell him directly and honestly that you were talking without thinking.) 注：对队友具体说的内容。	If you ever want to win any more basketballgames (and I’m sure you do!), you need unity, and thatmeans a785bmunicating with each other clearly and resolving conflict.
My friendwent and told everyone else what I’d said.	Then, talk to your friend. (Tell yourfriend you’re upset with him for repeating what you said and making the situation worse, but that you want to move on.) 注：对朋友具体说的内容。	Friendship should be one of the greatest thing in the world, but sometimes it can be a785bplicated. Again, constant, clear a785bmunication is the thing.
Letting off steamreally, I said allthis to my best friend.	Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, think about your own behaviour. (Take adeep breath, calm down, and always remember: think first, speak later.) 注：对自己而言具体的做法。	Don’t talk too muchwhen you’re angry! Filled with anger, you tend to say whatever a785bes to your mind.